Somatic Sexuality Coaching + Bodywork
In Person Sessions
Whether you’re an individual or a couple, in-person sessions are tailored to give you an experiential learning environment where you can discover new ways of being through body-based practices.
Sessions for
Individuals
One-on-one somatic coaching and bodywork can help address a range of challenges that come in the way of you feeling free and fully expressed as an erotic being.
Sexual Anxiety + shame
Just the thought of sex fills you with a sense of dread. You don’t like your body and you don’t trust your skills.
When you’re presented with an opportunity, you find yourself freezing, overthinking, unable to enjoy the moment, and spiralling into shame afterwards.
Low Desire + Lack of orgasm
Sexual pleasure feels like a mystery to you. You don’t crave it because it’s not that great anyways.
And orgasm? What’s that? It’s easier to put it all on the back burner and focus your attention elsewhere. But you still catch yourself wondering…what if it could be different?
Painful Sex
Sex feels challenging because it’s always associated with pain, specifically around penetration.
You may have tried a number of things, but nothing seems to help. Maybe you’ve decided this is just your fate, and that idea has left you feeling broken and hopeless.
Difficulty getting aroused
It feels hard to get going, and you struggle with a sense of pressure when your partner is ready and you’re not. This just adds to your anxiety.
Whether this shows up as erectile dysfunction or lack of lubrication, it creates stress in your interactions.
Early Ejaculation
You’ve tried everything: Thinking unsexy thoughts, counting, stopping and starting. And yet, your body is still gripped by fear.
All you can think about is holding on, while you miss all the joy and connection in the moment.
Porn Addiction
Porn provides a lovely escape from your day to day stresses, but you find yourself turning to it more often than you like.
Suddenly, it seems to consume you, and you find yourself losing interest in real connections and feeling out of body as you’re sucked into the screen. You want to get off the roller coaster, but you’re not sure how.
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Sessions For
Couples
Couples sessions offer an interactive space where partners can practice guided, hands-on skills with one another, while growing in their capacity to communicate and be intimate.
Building communication skills
Does it feel terrifying to share your sexual desires with your partner? Maybe you feel uncertain about what it is you even want to ask for. Perhaps every attempt at communication ends in argument.
Building healthy communication skills allows you to move beyond blockages and create more flow and intimacy.
Bridging desires + sexual styles
Different people have different needs. Perhaps you and your partner desire different levels of frequency, or have different ways of expressing yourselves sexually.
You can bridge the gap by learning to speak your partner’s sexual language, and by better understanding their unique needs.
Improving touch skills
Touch is so much more than just technique. It involves being present in one’s own body first, and then becoming exquisitely attuned to your partner’s body. Once this is in place, we can begin to refine our motor skills to create an exciting sensory journey for the person we are touching, all while reading their body with our hands.
Exploring Tantra + Sacred Sexuality
Tantra is an approach to spirituality that welcomes sexuality and invites the integration of sex and spirit.
As such, there are many practices involving breath, circulation of energy, and conscious touch that can help couples cultivate divine union and bring your lovemaking to the next level.
Exploring BDSM + Power Exchange
BDSM can be a beautiful path to explore trust, polarity, and add dimension to your relationship.
Sessions will help you with building confidence in your techniques, understanding your own and your partner’s archetypes and psychology, and crafting mind blowing scenes that will leave you buzzing.
Deepening Intimacy + Trust
Your body can only surrender as deeply as you are willing to trust.
Cultivating embodied intimacy and co-regulation help couples drop into deeper connection and coherence with one another.
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Hands on learning
Bodywork
Bodywork allows clients to experience full body, one-way touch, in service to their learning and growth.
All touch involves ongoing consent, communication, and follows a specific intention that we set for that session.
pleasure mapping
“How do you like to be touched?” - this is one of the most difficult questions for people to answer. The sad truth is, most of us don’t know.
Pleasure mapping teaches your body the range of possibilities available to you, and helps you better understand what works for you and what doesn’t.
Empowerment Massage
Do you ever struggle in communicating your needs? Empowerment massage* (term coined by sexuality and consent educator, Matthias Schwenteck) offers clients an opportunity to track desire within themselves and practice asking for what they want, moment to moment.
This is a completely client-led bodywork experience.
Yoni / Lingam Massage
Yoni and Lingam are the Sanskrit terms for vulva/vagina and penis, respectively. In this practice, clients are encouraged to drop into a space of receiving without goal.
Conscious yoni and lingam massage can help to address past sexual trauma, reawaken pleasure and teach the body to hold more expanded states of arousal.
Genital Mapping
Conventional sex education often revolves around simplified anatomy and pregnancy prevention. Hardly any of us were taught about the intricate beauty of our reproductive anatomy, and numerous ways that pleasure can become available to us.
This hands-on experience provides clients with the knowledge and confidence to understand their unique physiology and access pleasure with more ease.
Dearmouring
Armouring it a habitual pattern of tension, often held in place in order to manage an unpleasant sensation or emotion. We armour ourselves in response to overwhelming experiences.
When we hold armouring in the pelvic floor and genital area, it can prevent us from accessing our innate capacity for pleasure. Genital dearmouring works with the pelvic floor, combined with breath and intention to help release holding patterns and return to sensation.
Guided Self Pleasure and Dearmoring
Part of the journey toward becoming a sexually sovereign and empowered being is to understand our own bodies and how to create experiences for ourselves.
Guided sessions, whether it be self pleasure or self dearmouring, provides the live coaching and support for you to learn to master these skills for yourself and build the intuition to be able to continue them effortlessly at home.
Deep Dive
Experiences
Drop into your body, expand your edges, and come to know yourself in new and magnificent ways
Tantric Massage
Let go of your goals and performance anxieties, and give yourself the gift of pure receivership.
In this massage, we’ll focus on deepening your embodiment through breath, moving energy with your awareness, and presencing yourself with slow, sensual touch.
Couples Day Retreat
Come spend the day at my studio for a bespoke journey into all things Sacred Sexuality.
Whether you want to improve your touch skills, learn tantric massage, introduce power exchange, or simply improve your communication and intimacy, sessions are tailored to your specific needs and interests.
Dark Eros: A Journey Into Surrender
Have you been curious to explore the rich landscape of bondage and sensation play?
This unique bodywork experience combines the meditative presence and sensuality of Tantric massage, with the more intense stimulation of impact and various other creative sensations, all while being bound and blindfolded.
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Frequently Asked Questions
Sessions typically includes a combination of coaching + somatic practices. *(Somatic = body-based)
Our somatic practices may include breathwork, movement, sound, body based meditation, or touch.
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Somatic means body-based.
It comes from the Greek word soma, which descries the mind and the body as a single unity.
Somatic work always incorporates the body through awareness, feeling and sensing, and may make use of practices that involve breath, sound, movement and touch.
The goal of somatic work is to rewire and integrate experience from the bottom up.
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Most types of therapy, including sex therapy, are heavily talk-based, meaning clients spend most of the session developing a cognitive understanding of their situation, and perhaps doing some emotional processing.
Somatic therapies aim to include some awareness of the body and may include breath, sound and movement as part of the process.
However, licensed therapists are strictly forbidden from providing any intimate touch (for good reason)!
Somatic Sex Educators/Sexological Bodyworkers are NOT licensed therapists, therefore they are able to provide intimate touch as part of the healing journey for the client.
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All sessions are unique, but typically our work begins with somatic coaching + education, and over the course of several sessions we progress toward bodywork. (To learn more about bodywork, scroll further down to the next section)
Our coaching + education may involve things like cultivating deeper body awareness, learning to utilize breathwork techniques, practicing communication skills, and discovering your arousal anatomy.
Bodywork allows us to put together your foundational skills in a setting where you can receive full body touch.
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Sadly, no. While I do have training in psychotherapy, I am NOT a licensed psychotherapist. nor am I providing psychotherapy. This is because my work involves providing full body touch, and those two things are mutually exclusive. Only licensed professions are eligible for insurance.
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Somatic coaching in done clothing-on, where clients work on cultivating things like nervous system regulation, using breath as a tool for arousal, tracking boundaries and desires, and building deeper body awareness.
Bodywork allows us to bring it all together in a space where clients can opt to receive full body touch.
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As a sexological bodyworker, I’m trained in offering full body one-way touch. This is always done with prior consent and ongoing dialogue, in service to the client’s learning goals.
All touch is client centered, while I, as the facilitator, stay fully clothed. The touch can include genital touch if the client wishes, and arousal is welcome, though not a goal.
For more on bodywork, please continue reading below.
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No. The way I work is strictly through one-way touch, meaning you can ask me to touch you, and your attention remains within yourself.
One-way touch provides a unique opportunity where you can let go of any self imposed pressure around performance, reciprocation, and distraction. These sessions are a space for you to receive and focus on yourself.
Two-way touch is also valuable for other learning goals, and if you feel strongly called to that, there are other practitioners I can refer you to.
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I wear non-latex gloves for all genital and anal touch, for all clients. This is non-negotiable.
In addition, all surfaces are thoroughly disinfected after each use.
